What is The True Meaning For Happiness?

dictionaryWhile looking up the meaning of happiness, my brother happened to have a dictionary dated 1912, to this date means it is over 100 years old. It is called the ‘New Websterian 1912 Dictionary’. Based upon the unabridged dictionary of Noah Webster, LL.D.

The meaning of happiness in this dictionary is: The state of being happy; good fortune; felicitousness. There is also a meaning of, happify, didn’t really know it was a word, but it says: to make cheerful and happy.

What Good Is It To Have Everything If You’re Not Happy?

I think people have lost perspective of what true happiness is. People keep thinking, If I would just loose some weight I would be happy, If I could make more money I would be happy, If I was rich I would be happy, If I had better health, I would be happy. If I wouldn’t have gotten cancer, I would be happy! I could go on and on with different reasons of what people think they need or don’t need, in order to be happy.

Right now we live in an age of convenience. We have more conveniences than our ancestors could ever even dream of having. We have trains, planes, and fast automobiles. We have cell phones, and computers, at the touch of a button we can communicate with any one in the world. Yet with all these conveniences more people are unhappy and miserable today than a hundred years ago.

People are getting so caught up with chasing after the next big buck, with being rich that they forget the true meaning of a happy life.

Here’s a few of my favorite happy quotes:

Jumping for Joy is good exercise! ‘Unknown’

If you want to be happy, be. ‘Leo Tolstoy’

The best way to cheer yourself up, is to try to cheer somebody else up. ‘Mark Twain’

Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. ‘Abraham Lincoln’

We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. ‘Frederick Keonig’

A truly happy person is one that can enjoy the scenery while on a detour. ‘Unknown’

Cheerfulness is what greases the axles of the world. Don’t go through life creaking. ‘H.W. Byles’

Happiness always looks small while you hold it in your hands, but let it go, and you learn at once how precious it is. ‘Maxim Gorky’

For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness! ‘Unknown’

All seasons are beautiful for the person who carries happiness within. ‘Horace Friess’

Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within. It is not what we see and touch or that which others do for us which makes us happy; it is that which we think and feel and do, first for the other fellow and then for ourselves. ‘Helen Keller’smiley

Everyone has a different meaning of happiness in their life. I believe what Helen Keller quotes, Happy is that which we think and feel and do! So no matter what life throws at you, think good thoughts, so you feel good and in turn will do good things!

Peace Begins With A Smile!

begin with a smileMother Teresa said: “Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing”. “Peace begins with a Smile!”

Treat each day as if in order to survive, you must always be happy. This will not only affect your life, but all the lives around you.

Think back to when you did the most smiling, when you didn’t have to think so much about just surviving. Awwww, the years of being a child again, no problems and running around with nothing but a smile on your face.happy baby

What happened to all that smiling once we became an adult? As a child we we’re able to forgive quickly, not get so frustrated over the small things, enjoy the simple things in life and never take them for granted. We never held grudges against someone, because we would rather have fun playing with them.

I believe we were not put here on this earth to be miserable and live in survival mode every day. Sure, as an adult we face obstacles and challenges every day, but we need to learn to grow from them, not become negative because of them.

Our emotions become contagious to the people around us, whether it’s our family, friends, or strangers. We need to stay happy so that others will become effected by it. We’re only on this beautiful earth for a short time, we need to seize each and every day in an abundance of happiness.

From now on, when you wake up each morning, don’t be angry or sad, the day has just begun, BE HAPPY! Spring out of bed and hit the floor running like you did as a child. Make your new day a fun game, then the next day, play it again!

Life comes at you head on and very, very fast, when it does you have to be ready for it. Before you know it your day will be done, your week will be done and another year will be over. Your children will have children and your time on earth will come to an end as we know it.

big smilesI don’t know about you, but I plan on staying as happy as can be until that day comes for me. I know there will be bad days, sad days, negative days, and many obstacles, but that doesn’t mean that I have to accept them. Even with the loss of a child and having breast cancer,  I choose to play the game of life to it’s fullest in survival happiness with smiles for every one. How about You?

One Small Step!

stepHappiness really is a state of mind that you can choose if you want to. Learn to choose to focus on the things that make you happy in life, the things that go right, rather that the bad things. Bring the things that make you happy into full focus like a bright shining star and make them the bigger part of your life. It’s easy to do, one step at a time!

Think of it this way, when you stare into the big sky at night, would you rather see big black clouds or bright shiny stars? I would rather have bright shiny stars in my life!

When you start moving in the direction that makes you happy, it becomes just like swimming down river, freely and easily.

When you move more in the direction that makes you unhappy, it’s like swimming up river against the current. You become tired and run out of energy easily. I choose to be happy, how about you?

Life can be full of demands, overwhelms, frustrations, obstacles, sadness, and, of course, happiness. What is it you really want out of your life? And just how do you get it?

The very first thing you need to do is write down your wants. You might be saying right now, “It doesn’t matter what I want, I’m never going to get it!” Well, to be honest with you, with that type of attitude, you’re right, You won’t get what you want. You have to have a positive attitude towards what you want and know that you will get it.

Now, in order to get what you want, you have to take it one small step at a time. When I first thought about writing a book, I thought to my self, that’s just too big of a project, it will take me a life time. Then I heard someone say, “If you want to accomplish something in your life, take it one small step at a time. If it’s a book you want to write, just write one page a day and before you know it, you will have written your book!”

So that is exactly what I started doing, writing one page a day. Yes, there are some days that I skip, some times my creative side just doesn’t want to work, or life gets in the way. But as long as I managed to do my best and took that one small step, I knew I could accomplish finishing my book. And it really worked.

No matter what it is that you want out of life, taking that one small step can make a huge difference in your mindset. It can actually change your whole outlook on life. It can even start to relieve being overwhelmed at the task you want to accomplish, it can relieve some of the stress in your life and even depression.

Taking small steps at a time is a good way to approach the problems in your life too. Before you know it most of your problems will be gone, or they really weren’t any thing to worry about in the first place. You’ll also notice that your life becomes more happy, you’ll have a more positive outlook on your life and you’ll be getting those things that you really want.

“All great masters are chiefly distinguished by the power of adding a second, a third, and perhaps a fourth step in a continuous line. Many a man had taken the first step. With every additional step you enhance immensely the value of your first!” Quote: Ralph Waldo Emersonsmall step

4 Tips On Staying Positive!

bright sideOne: When something bad happens, take a deep breath, don’t overreact and then think about what the worst outcome could be. Think of the bright side of what happened. Believe it or not there always is a bright side, whether you think so at the time or not.

Albert Einstein said: “In the middle of every difficulty, lies opportunity.”

Two: Realize how bad you feel when you are having negative feelings. Is it really worth it? Now realize how awesome you feel and how beautiful life really looks when you are having positive feelings. I know it’s hard sometimes to go from feeling bad to feeling good, but it can be done. The best way to change your feelings is to think of something that makes you happy and then go there in your mind.

Three: The worst thing you can ever do, is to watch all the garbage that is going on in the news, whether it is on the television or in the news paper. It’s ok to know what is going on in the world, but don’t indulge yourself in it, especially when it is negative. All that does is make you feel worse and think that there is never going to be an end to all the bad stuff happening to you. Instead of listening or reading bad news, read a motivational book, or watch a comedy. You will be surprised at how your feelings will change, when you sit there and laugh until you cry at a funny movie.

Four: Most of all, stay away from negative people and situations. The last thing you need when you’re feeling down is someone else that is down. Get around up beat happy people. When I had to go through my radiation treatments for my breast cancer, the staff was the most inspiring, upbeat, and happy people I have ever come across.  What a difference it made having to go through radiation every day.

It really can be hard staying positive in such a negative world. But, if you really open your eyes and your heart, there is a million to one in positive energy versus negative energy around you, if you let it in!positive energy

Scientists have done research and that if you have at least 5 positive thoughts versus negative thoughts, that it is better for your heart, and immune system. Having a great heart and immune system is a great start in dealing with cancer.

What If?

dreamingThere are many days that you sit dreaming about “What If”!

What if I would have finished high school? What it I had decided on a career? What if I followed my dream? What If I get cancer? What If’s can drive you insane. You need to stop all the what if’s and think of all the great positive things in your life right now.

Right now you can use your broken dreams, disappointments and “what ifs” as stepping stones towards a better future. If you learn from your mistakes, and move forward, you will move forward toward a bigger and better future. Make the most out of today rather than the “What If’s” of yesterday!

So many people get stuck in the “should-a, would-a, could-a’s” and have a hard time forgiving themselves for not doing better in life. Self-forgiveness is vital for moving ahead in life rather than spending time living with a constant pull from the past. Forgive yourself for not knowing everything!

A person really never knows what might have happened if you had chosen the other path, it could even have been worse! We continue to think how things could have been better, rather than focus on what could have been worse! And believe me, things could have been worse.

Look ahead and step out of the “What If’s”! It’s not good to be stuck with unproductive regret. There’s a big difference between productive and unproductive regret. Unproductive regret keeps you focused on how the past would have been better, and productive regret helps you make better decisions as you look toward your future.

I once heard about, “The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life!”

You need to accept the fact that life is not smooth and predictable like American or Cream Cheese. Rather, it is more like Swiss cheese with all its characteristic holes. Interestingly enough, it is a fact that the bigger the holes in the Swiss, the more flavorful, sweeter and more distinctive the cheese. Using this as an analogy to our lives, we have the opportunity of getting stronger and developing more character when we get through large life “holes” and obstacles.’ So, with The Swiss Cheese Theory Of Life, you can feel more positive no matter what comes your way, and will be able to “SMILE AND SAY CHEESE!”smile say cheese

With The Economy Going To Hell, How Can You Stay Positive?

Research indicates that, at the subconscious level, our minds have a tendency to focus on the optimistic while, at the conscious level, we have a tendency to focus on the negative.bad attitude

Let’s face it, life can be hard, but why make it harder by facing it with a bad attitude as well?

Charles Dickens wrote, “There is always something to be thankful for.”
There are so many hardships going on in the world today. Our economy is in the worst recession ever. Our dollar is loosing it’s value. More people are out of work than ever. There are more homeless families than there have ever been before. It seems like every time you turn a corner some one is getting cancer. With all this in life going on,and the world going to hell, how ever can a person continue to stay positive?

I was one of those, like so many thousands of other people, who got knocked down when the fall of the real estate market came. Everything was lost, so I felt! The only thing that kept me going was to stay positive no matter how hard it was to do.

I had to keep telling myself that this was not the end. That this was NOT how my life was suppose to be. I had to knock out the negative noise that was in my head and focus on only the positive.

Eventually things got a little better, then I got breast cancer. Talk about a blow to positive thinking! You start questioning yourself, “How can this be happening?” “Why Me?”, “Is there any thing else you want to throw at me?”

I had to think long and hard about this one. What good would it be to become negative now? There really could be many more things that could go wrong. I learned to put a smile back on my face, be happy and stay positive no matter what. I beat that nasty old breast cancer, and my life is getting better and better.

It’s a must now days to find something to be positive about in your life. The best way to do that is to be thankful for what you now have, no matter how small it might be. Even though I lost everything when the real estate market crashed, and then had breast cancer, I still had so much to be grateful for! I was still alive and learned to enjoy the things around me.

“Once you replace the negative thoughts with positive ones you’ll start having positive results!”‘Quote: Willie Nelson’

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What Is Your Happy?

Everyone has a different HAPPY.  happy baby

Some people find happiness in pleasing others, while others find happiness in power and domination.

Some people define their happy as a billion dollars.

Others think the way to happiness and a meaningful life is to get closer to God and give up everything material.

Still others think the ultimate idea of happiness is freedom!

What is your ‘HAPPY’?

I’m taking a positive psychology class, and they say that their are 10 positive emotions. Believe it or not Happy is not one of them. Happy is a broad term that describes a lot of emotions.

The top 10 positive emotions are:

Joy, Gratitude, Serenity, Interest, Hope, Pride, Amusement, Inspiration, Awe and LOVE!

Maybe that’s why they say, “Everyone has a different happy”, because there are so many emotions that make you feel happy!

Positive emotions also have a lot to do with your immune system function, which is why I believe that when dealing with cancer you need to stay positive.  It’s like a nutrient to your body.

I’ll keep you updated on how my positive psychology class is going along the way. Would love feedback from you on what your take of being positive is!positive